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 MY MUM STILL THINKS I’M A V!RGIN, WHILE LOST IT AT AGE 16 [SHOULD I TELL HER THE TRUTH]

My mum still thinks that I’m a virgin. I overhead her while she was advising my younger one in her bedroom. If only I could reverse time…

Here’s my story and a very brief history that should give you a picture of the kind of family I come from.

I come from a christian home with very religious parents, I’m the 3rd out of 4 children. My dad (he’s late now) was a serious member of the “die by fire” group of worshipers, and my mum, a children teacher in a famous Bible believing church. We were all brought up to fear God, and to live by example. I remember doing evangelical exercises with my friend back then in secondary school during the break period. I even preached in the bus on my way to school. I kept distance with the girls, and will not socialize much so as to avoid temptation. They complained I was too shy, and during camp meeting in school then, when boys and girls begin to mingle, I was either on my own or with my close friend discussing the bible. People will tell my parents that I was the pastor in our family and things like that. I too loved it, and I can remember dreaming and telling myself that I was going to get married being a virgin.

But things changed, so fast than I could imagine in that aspect. I’m still a quiet good guy (if I’m to access myself), I’ve learnt to socialize a little, but guess what; I’m no longer a virgin. I lost it 8 months after I graduated from secondary school. Worst still, I did it with someone 4 years older than my elder sister (our 1st born). I was 16+, she was 23. She lured me to her house that day and took my innocence. Not as if I didn’t know something wasn’t going to happen, at least I suspected it. Prior to that incident, she was always being nice to me whenever we cross paths..

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Okay, now I’m in my early 20’s. I traveled home from school for the Xmas break and one of the days I was going to get something from my mum’s bedroom, when I overheard my mum advising with my younger sibling who is yet to enter the higher institution about associating with the opposite sex. She was using me and the others as point of reference that we are all well spoken off outside and are still virgins.

VIRGINS ? Well.. I don’t know about my elder sis and my elder brother, but me, a virgin? I felt like I’ve let her down. I just tiptoed to my bedroom and began to reflect on myself. I’m not a player, but besides that girl who broke my virginity I have had a few more affairs, all are my seniors with significant age difference except for my present girlfriend who’s just 6 months older.

I can’t tell my mum I’m not a virgin, she’ll feel terribly bad..And it’s not Nigerian to discuss relationship matters with your parents, religious once for that matter. I have a few friends and they all think the same. Some say I’m shy, I act like slow poison, I pretend, I’m a pastor, I’m a nerd and jibes like that. But I’ve done things crazy things, I’m no more the guy who always dreamt of getting married a virgin and now I don’t pray to marry a virgin either, I don’t even deserve one. I think virgins should get married to virgins, IMO.

No much regrets though, but if I could reverse time, I’ll not loose my virginity at 16 (it doesn’t show I was breed from a God fearing family), I will loose it now, at least I’m way older than then.

NIGERIAN AIR FORCE VIRGIN, ALLEGEDLY DRUGGED, RAPED BY A SUPERIOR AND SACKED

A Nigerian Air Force personnel, Igbobi Uzezi, who accused one of her superiors, Flight Lieutenant B.S Vibelko, of drugging and raping her in 2011, has sued him along with the Air Force, Chief of Air Staff, and Attorney-General of the Federation, for her unlawful dismissal. .

The suit, number FHC/L/CS/10/17, was filed at the Federal High Court, Lagos Division on January 5, 2017, by the Malachy Ugwummadu Chambers on behalf of the Committee for the Defence of Human Rights, which is handling the case. .

The court processes state that the “violent rape and sexual assault” of Uzezi was a “flagrant violation of her fundamental rights to life, dignity of human person and personal liberty.” .

Uzezi accused Vibelko of assaulting her on May 17, 2011, with claims that she contracted a sexually transmitted disease in the process. She said in her suit, “I was arrested and detained at the guardroom within the Air Force Base, V.I, Lagos in an inclement and dehumanising condition with hard labour for a period of 14 days from May 9 to 23, 2013, on the orders of the chief of air staff, air officer commandant, and the flight lieutenant, without charging me to a court of law or even making my offences known to me.”

According to the suit, the claimant was again detained within the Air Force Base, Ikeja, Lagos for another 10 days from October 1 to 10, 2015, allegedly on the orders of the names mentioned earlier.

Her lawyers claim that Uzezi was dismissed from service without allowing her a fair hearing on allegations that Vibelko, her former instructor took undue advantage of her “violently drugging and raping her against all known codes of discipline and laws of both the Nigerian Armed Forces Act and Criminal laws of Nigeria.”

Uzezi is asking the court to award her the sum of N500m against the chief of air staff, air officer commandant and also the flight lieutenant as damages for the breach of her fundamental rights. Uzezi joined the Air Force in 2010 at the age of 19. She said she was still a virgin at the time she was allegedly raped.

Please Advice Me: I Am Still A V!rg!n And My Boss Wants To Have S*x With Me – Nigerian Girl Cries Out

I graduated from Uniben for 6 years now with no job . I manage to get a good paying and mouth watering job through my sister ’ s friend .

The manager employed me in proxy of the CEO, in which the CEO will be back to the firm nextweek . My manager threatens to report negative feedback to the CEO because i refused to sleep with him .

Whatever the manager tells the CEO, the CEO effects . I need this job i am fed up and tired of joblessness .

I cant leave this job now. Please if you have experience this before advise me on what to do and how you came out of this tragedy